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Self-Care Practices During Divorce

Going through a divorce is often much more painful than one can imagine, no matter whose idea it is to split. Even if you were the one who decided to file or if it was a mutual decision, it is still difficult and can bring about feelings you didn’t even know you had.

The COVID 19 pandemic is adding even more overwhelm and pain to divorcing couples in the form of financial struggles and isolation. If you are going through a divorce or are considering divorce, it is more important than to show yourself grace and focus on self-care during this pandemic.

Why Self Care?

Self-care is so important — for everyone really — but especially for individuals going through divorce. When we split from a marriage, it can feel equivalent to suffering the death of a loved one. After all, you are losing someone who has been such an intimate part of your life, and you will likely go through a mourning process in which you may feel lost and completely alone.

Please remember that these feelings are completely normal; however, during this time of mourning, it is crucial to focus on yourself and pour back into yourself so you can come out stronger and more clear on where this next chapter will take you.

Self-Care Practices for Divorce During COVID 19

While it is easier said than done, here are a few self-care practices that may help you get through this period of mourning, especially during quarantine:

  • Take walks outside without electronics and soak in your surroundings — the vitamin D is good for your soul, as is the fresh air and space to be alone with your thoughts.

  • Don't let your pride prevent you from talking with a therapist. An unbiased voice can be of great benefit in analyzing yourself, your view of relationships and your new freedom in the world, and how to make sure you stay on track for a healthy future.

  • Move your body every day — even if you don’t enjoy working out, it is important to get up and move for at least 15 minutes every day.

  • Get 8 hours of sleep at least 4-5 days/week — rest is crucial to heal your body and mind and to help you operate at your best.

  • Start a journal — writing down your thoughts at the end of the day can help release negative thoughts, clear your mind and help with better sleep.

  • Wake up earlier and go to bed earlier — waking up earlier can help give you purpose and make you feel more alive and productive each day.

  • Start a gratitude journal — instead of focusing on the loss of your marriage, try focusing on the things you are grateful for. Start by writing down three things you are grateful for every morning.

  • Find a local or online support group. Now more than ever you need support and encouragement from those who are in the same place you are.

  • Eat more veggies — when we take care of our bodies from the inside and give ourselves the proper nutrients, we feel less bogged down, both physically and emotionally.

  • Drink more water — water helps boost natural energy and can help our minds feel clearer. Adding lemon to water helps awaken us and is relaxing when hot at the end of the day.

These self-care tips may help you as you go through your divorce, especially during this time of isolation. As you shift your focus from the loss of the divorce or the financial and emotional overwhelms that come with it onto yourself, you will regain confidence, remember who you are and come out stronger than ever.